Interesting dilemma, Sexual energy and ejaculation 

I found myself in an interesting dilemma. I was married, but enjoyed masturbating every-so-often. This however caused problems with my wife. It made her upset because she was feeling that I was satisfying myself and she was losing out. This caused an uncomfortable situation for me. So I wanted to find a solution.

I reasoned it this way… "It’s when I ejaculate that I ‘expend’ my sexual energy… so if I don’t ejaculate I will still have a ‘normal’ sex drive from my wife’s perspective and still be able to have my masturbating too." So I began exploring masturbating without ejaculation.

Right away I noticed that NOT ejaculating is a REALLY HARD thing to do. My body would want to release… yet I did not want it to. So I had to learn how to stop before I crossed that line. Quickly I began to see the benefit in this… it allowed me to control my ejaculation so I would not come as quick when having sex with my wife. Wow. I found myself learning new things about my body.

During this time I also noticed something unusual. Depending on HOW I masturbated, it seemed to create a different kind of energy. The longer the stroke, the easier it was for me to ejaculate… something I was trying to avoid. But if I focused on the head of my penis, I was less likely to cum. Focusing on the head of the penis didn’t create the same aroused energy as my normal masturbation. This was a stronger energy, but less erotic. This energy is NOT about ejaculating. As a matter of fact, when I played with this energy I noticed that I was less inclined to get close to ejaculation and I did not desire a typical orgasm.

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Thus I began to focus more attention on the head of my penis rather than further down the shaft. In the beginning it was excruciating… it was such a strong energy… that I could not stand much of it. It would send such intense waves of energy through my body that I had to stop. The energy felt "wild" and uncontrolled. It felt like it could overpower me, or hurt me. I wanted to each time experience more energy than the time before, but it sometimes took everything I had to try to stand more of the energy. It was SO intense.

As the weeks progressed, I noticed I could tolerate more energy, I could last longer. I went from 5-10 minute sessions in the shower, to 30-45 minute sessions. Often my penis would go limp even as the waves of energy and pleasure continued to increase. I didn’t even need to be erect!
 
The feeling was so intense that compared to a typical orgasm this energy was of a HIGHER intensity. Having an orgasm (it could and did happen every-so-often if I wasn’t careful) was a bummer. If I ejaculated, the energy I had built would collapse and fade away quickly, but if I didn’t ejaculate, it would last a LONG time.

I had never felt energy like this before. It felt like waves of electricity coursing through my body. A tingling sensation all over my body. From head to toe, my body would pulsate with energy. Sometimes my body would react by tensing up and stretching out, sometimes I would find myself curled up in a fetal position, almost always my body is writhing and shaking with intense waves of pleasure.
I also noticed some other effects in my life. This "energy work" as I came to call it, had major impact on how I felt. This high energy-orgasmic like state would last for 2-4 hours! Yes, I said HOURS. I felt exceptionally energized and empowered. I could tackle anything. It wasn’t the same energy as being sexually aroused… it is more like just being exceptionally charged, all over, the whole body!

The secret seemed to be my mental focus. If I approached masturbating from a sexually aroused state… I was history. I was doomed to ejaculate. Yet, if I went at it with the approach that I am just going to raise my energy, and NOT ejaculate, I would be able to last as long as I wanted to. This was a powerful switch, that took me a while to understand and master. If in the middle of doing energy work, I started to think sexually… in seconds I would ejaculate and it would be over. The secret was in the mind set that I was holding. It was like I could "steer" the energy where I wanted it to go, towards building energy, or towards sexual release- based on what I was thinking in the moment.

In essence, I was learning how to powerfully control and master my own sexual energy. After this, making love with my wife was never the same. Because I had such control, I could last a LONG time without ejaculating in the most intense lovemaking I have ever experienced! We could go for hours with intensity, take a break, and go for several hours more! Now we could stop when we were both satisfied, rather than when I would happen to ejaculate. Wow! This discovery changed my lovemaking and masturbating forever!

I always assumed that most other guys had understood and experienced a lot of these things themselves. But as I would talk with other guys about this concept, I realized that most of this was a foreign concept. It was like I stumbled onto something that was relatively unknown. Thus, the idea for this website was born. My goal, to share this information with anyone who was interested. So you could experience the same amazing empowerment that I did!